How may times have you wondered if what you’re doing is really making a difference? Women have wrestled with thoughts of doubt, longing, thankfulness, heartache and desire for millennium. As mothers, daughters, sisters, our hearts are made to be open to love, and service. If you’re a mom, you know what I’m talking about. But who can we turn to for support? Our spouse can be a single source of love, encouragement, and partnership among many other things. But our spouse cannot be everything for us. We need relationships outside our marriage.
Sisters, whether by flesh or friendship, can provide us with such great joy, comfort and be a huge support system. New moms especially need a circle of women they can trust. In some cultures that circle includes family, mothers, sisters, aunts, and other relatives. But in the US we often have miles between our closest relatives. Mom tribe, sisterhood, moms and tots, whatever the group might be called, they are all the same. Women helping other women.
In the age of the internet, it is so easy to feel like you have a mom tribe in a FaceBook group, Instagram mamas or other social media group. But there is nothing like spending time face to face with the same women week after week for an hour or three. We’re humans and most of us crave human interaction. (Yes, even introverts like some time with groups).
If you don’t have a moms group you’re part of, I’d like to encourage you to “make space” in your life for one. Look on FB, it’s ok. Try out a mom group through your local church. They won’t be judging you for wearing yoga pants, or having a milk stain (I think that’s what it is) on your shirt or not brushing you hair that day. You know why? Because they are going through the same thing as you. They can relate. Even if you only have a chance to order a coffee and pray that your kids play nicely for 30 minutes while you try to remember the other moms names, I promise it will be worth it. The stories I’ve shared, and had shared with me, the advice I’ve received, and lovingly given, have forged bonds that I know will last a lifetime.
Moms, we need each other. We can’t do it alone.
Children are such a blessing, and they look to us for guidance, for us to be a model the type of behavior we wish of them. And yes, motherhood is a mountain we climb each day. But the small feet that follow us, eventually share the view of sunlight at the top. I promise you it is worth all the daily struggles.
And it’s totally ok to humble ourselves and say we need help.
If you’re looking for more models, women in scripture are our real-life models of prayer, penitence, adoration, thanksgiving, and praise- our sisters of faith.
I’m hosting weekly LIVE hangouts on IG, if you’re interested in joining, pick up the devotional here: She Who Believed Lent Devotional / Journal